Ok, wife is having problems with my M&P. Let me star by saying my wife is not new to guns. She has been around guns her whole life. She is an full time active duty soldier in the Army. So, she is not squeamish when it comes to firearms. We have had guns in the house for quite a while. I recently brought home my M&P 9c and thats when the problem started. She is having trouble with this gun simply because it has no manual safeties. I tried explaining to her how even with a round chambered the gun is still safe as long as you don't pull the trigger, but she doesn't seem to buy my explanation. I think she is equating my M&P being chambered and a revolver with the hammer pulled back. In her mind a loaded M&P is ready to go off like a revolver with the hammer cocked. She carries a 9mm beretta in the army, but that gun has a hammer, and manual safeties. Every time I put the M&P down on a hard surface she flinches as if it being jarred or bumped it will go off. Now, I am a moron when it comes to explaining the guts of a gun. I don't know how to explain the internal safety features, I don't know how to explain the way the firing pin sits when loaded. I don't know how to explain sa vs da vs sada and so on. If someone would be so kind as to take a few minutes and type out an explanation on the internal safeties, firing pin position etc.. on this gun, my life at home would be so much easier and my wife wouldn't be afraid to hug me while i am carrying my M&P. Thank you so much.